Nowadays we are surrounded by relationships. We see them everywhere – movies, social media and even adverts. It can be easy to idolise relationships and marriage and see singleness as a negative without even noticing!
The truth is, you might get married one day and you might not – and in both marriage and singleness, there are joys and challenges – but what you definitely will be at some point is single, so I think it’s worth talking about and getting to grips with!
This isn’t a marriage-bashing post. In fact I think that marriage is beautiful and I see so many wonderful, God-honouring marriages around me. But I definitely think we should celebrate singleness more and I wish that when I was in my teens someone had told me that being single was worth more than ‘waiting’ and that like marriage, and school and family life, singleness is something that you can do well and honour God with…
Know that singleness is a gift
I know it doesn’t always seem this way (especially on a Saturday night when your friends are hanging out with their other halves and you’re snuggled up with your teddy) but it is, I promise! God is our Father who loves us and gives us what we need, when we need it. Commit to believing this in your head and God will work on your heart.
Make the most of your time
When you’re single, you have more time than you realise – use it wisely! Instead of scrolling through social media and feeling sorry for yourself (I am the most guilty of this) why don’t you use that extra time to volunteer at church or in the community? You could even spend time with God – worshipping, praying, reading the Bible or just being still. I can guarantee it will be time well-spent.
Don’t isolate yourself
As well as spending time with God, spend time with family and friends, and invest in community. We were not designed to walk through life alone!
Find completeness in God
Jesus is the only one who can fill that emptiness that you feel. If you struggle with it as a single person, you’ll still struggle with it when you’re married. While you are single, take the time to get firmly rooted in God and His love for you. Allow Him to fill that hole.
Live from your identity in Christ and not your relationship status
There isn’t one relationship status that is better than another, and there isn’t one relationship status that can define you. Ask God to show you your identity in Him and live out of that. You are who He says you are.